Your Guide to Sexy Valentine’s Gifts (2026)

Looking for sexy Valentine’s gifts? We feel your pain. It has to be sexy, but not crass. Cute, but not too saccharine. Affordable, but not mass produced junk. If that’s too much it’s okay. Before you reach for the fair-trade chocolates or do a panicked run to a florist, have a look at our list of sexy Valentine’s gifts for inspiration. They’ll cost the same as roses in February – and they’ll last longer too!

Should you give a sex toy for Valentine’s day?

This is like the Christmas question. Is the gift for your partner? Do you use toys together already or have talked about wanting to explore more? Then sure. Is this for a crush you don’t really know? Maybe start with some flirting, eye contact, and using your words before jumping to a sexy Valentine’s gift. If this is for your partner and you don’t know if they’d like a sex toy – ask them! Shopping together is a great way to connect and bring the spark back into your relationship.

Read more: Getting stated with couple’s toys by Kate Manning.

Unisex Valentine’s gifts you can both enjoy

Lets be honest, you’ll probably be using anything you’d get together anyway, but here’s some unisex options that’ll work for everyone.

Bedroom Bliss Heart Shaped Position Pillow

It’s a position pillow – and it’s a love heart! If you haven’t tried a position pillow yet, you need to. They’re life changing for everyone and a must for couples with a significant height difference. Position pillows are designed to help elevate you during sex for easier alignment without anyone needing to strain to stay in the perfect place. Sure you could train as a contortionist or limit yourself to lying flat on top of each other, but you’d be amazed at the pleasures unlocked by simply having a non-compressing, perfectly angled cushion to lean on.

You can also check out this bondage version with cuffs, or grab an inflatable position wedge if storage space is an issue.

California Exotic Glow Stick Heart Dildo

Sometimes you just want a dildo. And this one glows in the dark! It’s also covered in tiny cute love hearts, making it a very sexy Valentine’s gift choice. It’s also a full silicone design, very approachable size, and has a flared base making it safe for anal play too. It also has a suction cup base for hands free fun – or your favourite harness.

Rocks Off Glow Girl Wand Vibrator

If you’re new to toys we always recommend a wand massager. They’re great for foreplay, help you discover each other’s hot spots, and work on all bodies! They’re also very, very fun when you combine them with bondage. We love the Glow Girl because it’s pretty, affordable, and delivers where it counts. If you’re after something a little more luxe, we have a few Limited Edition Wild Secrets Wands left that come in a very giftable black and gold. Alternatively get the super luxe Lelo Switch if you know want something that’s powerful and double ended for internal fun.

Pipedream Icicles Glass Butt Plug with Heart Base

If you’ve been following our blog you’ll have noticed we’re recommending glass toys more and more these days because they’re so intense – and this one is no exception. The firmness and rigidity give you a really intense feeling – especially when you clench down around it. The heart base is just an added, Valentine’s themed bonus! We love the beauty of this piece – and the two pleasure ridges are pretty good too.

If you’re looking for a sexy booty play gift that’s more beginner friendly, try this silicone option from bVibe.

Sexy Valentine’s gifts for her

This selection is curated for either solo women, or women in a same or opposite sex relationship. For male focused toys, please scroll down to the next section.

Satisfyer Cutie Heart Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator

If she loves a Pro 2 then you can’t go wrong with a little love heart shaped toy that packs the same tech as the world’s best-selling sex toy. It’s affordable, on theme for a sexy Valentine’s gift, and you know it’ll get the job done. It’s great for foreplay, can be used solo, or she can put on a show if you’ve decided to give voyeurism a try as part of your kinky new year’s resolutions. We love a toy that can hide in plain sight and this is definitely one of them. Plus it’s super cute and romantic.

Zalo Calla Double Ended Vibrator

Zalo is a brand that’s quietly moved up our best seller lists recently. And the Calla Double Ended Vibe is an example of Zalo at their best. Shaped like a gorgeous lily this vibe doubles as a piece of home décor, while also providing pleasure on demand. The stamen offers arousing external stimulation – with our without the petals depending on how you choose to use it – while the handle can be inserted for satisfying G-spot pleasure. The Calla’s great if you need to be discreet. And it’s even better if you also  love beautiful products, or have limited space and want something displayable and functional. It’s also not a rose, although we have plenty of those too.

Adam & Eve Four Play Couple’s Vibrator Set

One vibrator, four different toys. That’s the promise of the Four Play Couple’s Set from Adam & Eve and it’s a budget friendly option that’s also better for the environment. Primarily designed for opposite sex couples, this set works best if at least one of you is a vulva owner, so we’ve included it here. If you don’t think you want to use multiple toys at once and don’t mind changing the motor over during play, this is a solid choice.

And if you like this sort of multi-function design, you might also like the Satisfyer Marvelous Four.

Lelo Gigi 3 App Controlled G-Spot Vibrator

Want to know a secret about G-Spot Vibrators? You can use them externally as clitoral vibrators too. Given a lot of women find rabbit vibrators can be challenging in terms of getting everything to line up just right, gifting a G-Spot vibe can be a safer move if you aren’t shopping together with your partner. And given the quality and luxury of the product, we’re putting Lelo at the top of our giftable list once again. The Gigi 3 has been redesigned to better fit most bodies, packs Lelo’s legendary powerful motors, and if you sync it to the Lelo app, has an ‘Out of Control’ mode you want to see her try. If you don’t need the app control you can save a bit of money with the Gigi 2, or go with our more budget friendly Wild Secrets Charm.

Sexy Valentine’s gifts for him

A lot of men’s sex toys are geared towards solo play, but here’s some options sexy valentine’s gifts for the adventurous man in your life.

Lelo F2S Open Ended Masturbator

The Lelo F2S is Lelo’s open-ended version of their luxurious F1S full sleeve masturbator. While it’s great for solo use, edging, and increasing stamina for longer lasting sex, the F2S is a great addition to a blowjob. Especially if you throw in some flavoured lube. The one thing to know about the Lelo F series is the casing is made of brushed aluminium, so they don’t stretch. If your partner is particularly thick or has a girth close to that of the toy, we recommend going for an open ended masturbator with a lengthwise split in it – like the Arcwave Zing or the PDX Vibrating Stroker.

Read more: The Arcwave Zing Reviewed by Leo Lockwood.

Lovense Max 2 App Controlled Masturbator

This is our pick if you’re doing a long distance relationship. Yes, there’s plenty of brands with apps – Lelo, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe all have great ones. Lovense has an app. And its toys have some of the best connectivity for international play – which is exactly when you want a stable connection. But while you could get any Lovense toy and be happy, the Max does something special when you pair it with the Lovense Nora. Both toys can control the vibrations of each other – so you using the Nora changes what he feels with the Max, and him thrusting into the Max changes what you feel with the Nora. No fingers on screens needed. If you’re in a same sex relationship, the Max will control the vibrations of the Lovense Edge 2 Prostate Massager, but the control only goes one way.

Speaking of prostate massagers,

Nexus Simul8 Vibrating Prostate Massager

The one problem with trying to use a prostate massager during partnered sex is their annoying tendency to fall out. Now you could go with a butt plug (we suggest this vibrating, inflatable choice from Master Series), but if your partner really enjoys the direct prostate stimulation of a massager, look for one that has a cock ring attached to it. Not only does the cock ring keep the massager in place, it’ll also give him a firmer, longer lasting erection that you get to enjoy.

There are also more budget friendly, non-vibrating options like this one.

JimmyJane Tarvos Vibrating Couples’ Ring with Remote Control

By now you probably know all about cock rings. They restrict blood flow from the penis keeping it hard, making it feel more sensitive and help erections last longer. And you probably know the vibrating parts of them are designed for you – the receiving partner. With some exceptions, of course. We love the Tarvos because it works for any man in a relationship – and is even great solo. If you want something designed for clitoral stimulation, you can also check out the JimmyJane Deimos, which is just as well reviewed.

Calexotics Pop Sock Reversible Textured Stroker

If you’re dating a trans man, get him a Pop Sock. Yes it’s not an exxy gift – but when we gave two strokers to one of our trans-masc friends to road test for us, this was his favourite. The squishy, clingy grip of TPE makes for a truly intense time, and the stretch of the toy means it’ll be a firm favourite even as his body changes. We normally have a range of shapes and textures but they keep selling out, so hopefully the one you want is available when you shop!

If you need something non-porous and want a silicone stroker, Calexotics also produces this larger Boundless option, which is great for bigger trans-men, or guys who don’t want something too intense.

Kinky Valentine’s Gifts for both of you

Keen to lean more into kink and want something more than just a sexy Valentine’s gift? We’ve got you. Bondage and restraint are fantasies most people want to try, and we’re here for it – as long as you keep it safe, sane, and consensual.

Rosy Noveau Collar with Attached Flogger

We love a sexy accessory, and this kinky collar from Rosy Noveau is a two in one! It’s a sensual, decorative collar with a trailing leash that will brush over your body – or your sub’s body – with each and every movement. And that leash detaches for use as a flogger for impact or sensation play. And sure, it’s modelled by a woman, but a collar and flogger are unisex products, so use it as you like.

Adam and Eve Fairy Bondage Set

Love the thought of BDSM but aren’t keen on traditional ‘dungeon’ scenes? Keep this light and fun with this iridescent set of cuffs, collar, and leash, complete with cute little bows from Adam & Eve! The set is modular so you can attach and detach any piece to any other piece, and there’s plenty of room for play, experimentation, or even role play dress ups. Of course, if you do like the leather idea you can always pick up the Mahogany Desires set instead.

Frisky Passion 3 Piece Fetish Kit

If you like the idea of a bondage kit but want it to say Valentine’s Day, try the Passion Fetish Kit from Frisky. It’s a budget-friendly option with some entry level bondage gear. And it comes in a heart shaped box making it a great option if you need something special, but are still hurting from how much you spent over the Christmas/New Year’s period.

Wild Secrets Forte Wrist and Ankle Cuffs

Want the OG all black dungeon look? Get yourself our Forte Cuffs! They’re heavy duty, sturdy, comfortable to wear, and their faux leather build make them super easy to clean and maintain. Not to mention they’re a fraction of the cost of bespoke leather cuffs. And if you want the full set you can get our Orchestra Pleasure Collection to really get started.

Master Series Drip Sensation Spoon & Drip Candle Set

Wax play is on the more extreme end of kinks that we cater to, and it’s incredibly erotic, arousing, and is the ultimate ‘let it be messy’ kink play. These red drip candles are formulated to melt at 50 degrees Celsius (122F), so it’ll be pleasantly warm without burning, and the spoon is a drip tool, scraper, and candle holder all in one, letting you explore and experiment. Our tip? Consider following a drop of hot wax with an ice cube. This takes you from a flush of warm heat to the sting of cold to really get your sub’s skin tingling and ready for all the other sensations you’re planning to bestow upon them.

Does the perfect, sexy Valentine’s gift even exist?

Haven’t found the perfect, sexy Valentine’s gift yet? Stop. Breathe. It’s okay. We have so many more couples toys you can browse, and the gift doesn’t have to be perfect. The idea that a single gift, or even set of gifts, on a specific day can make or break your relationship is an impossible standard and you don’t need to chase it. If you’re investing in your relationship all the other days of the year, then Valentine’s day is an optional extra. And you don’t have to pay the commercial holiday tax to do what society ‘says’ you should do. You can celebrate your relationship your way. And ultimately, it’s be more meaningful if you do.

Of course, if you’ve got excited looking at our range of sexy Valentine’s gifts, there’s nothing stopping you from grabbing your partner and going through this guide together. Maybe see what conversations it sparks about desire and fantasy. Sure, surprises can be great. But the anticipation of getting that parcel in the mail when you both know exactly what’s going to be in it? That’s desire.